Archives for May 2014

More on Self-Compassion

Here’s a short story that illustrates the practice of self-compassion. While we may not all have children, we can all relate to being in challenging situations.   I hope this gives you a smile, and perhaps, a hope that you too, can put this practice into use when you’re faced with difficulty.

2 More Aisles 

A man observed a woman in the grocery store with a three-year old girl in her basket. As they passed the cookie section, the little girl asked for cookies and her mother told her no. The little girl immediately began to whine and fuss, and the mother said quietly, “Now Monica, we just have half of the aisles left to go through; don’t be upset. It won’t be long.”

Soon they came to the candy aisle, and the little girl began to shout for candy. And when told she couldn’t have any, began to cry. The mother said, “There, there, Monica, don’t cry–only two more aisles to go, and then we’ll be checking out.”

When they got to the check-out stand, the little girls immediately began to clamor for gum and burst into a terrible tantrum upon discovering there’d be no gum purchased. The mother patiently said, “Monica, we’ll be through this check out stand in 5 minutes and then you can go home and have a nice nap.”

The man followed them out to the parking lot and stopped the woman to compliment her. “I couldn’t help noticing how patient you were with little Monica,” he began. Whereupon the mother said, “What are you talking about? I’m Monica . . . . . my little girl’s name is Tammy.”

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The Four Myths of Self-Compassion

I’m posting this article because I think self-compassion is misunderstood. It is not uncommon for me to get resistance from my clients when I suggest thinking about how might their best friend look at a situation they are in—for instance, what might they tell you about your feelings or attitudes?

I get it. It may feel ridiculous, self-centered, or in some way insincere, and the tendency to hold tightly to your strong judgments and self-criticism feels comfortable. However, what if there really is something to this new way of relating to yourself and others? Research has shown that self-compassion is linked to less egocentrism and more emotional balance. The article I posted might shed some light on the topic.

The Four Myths of Self-Compassion

13 Things Mindful People Do Differently Every Day

I found this article to be inspiring and helpful. It discusses ways to bring mindfulness to your everyday life. Check it out! You may find that you are already doing some of these practices, or maybe you’d like to start. See what happens…

13 Things Mindful People Do Differently Every Day